How Mediumship Readings Can Help Heal Childhood and Family Trauma
In my 15 years of professional experience as a licensed grief and trauma therapist, I've found that much of where we get "stuck" on the journey to healing traumas (especially those deeply rooted in childhood and family experiences) lingers around what is left unspoken---the lack of clarity, closure, justice, or apologies stick with us for years, causing us to create stories about who we are and what we deserve in life. What I started to find in my readings as a psychic medium is that there is a real potential and power to heal these traumas through facilitating the connection between my clients and the departed people they had a difficult time with in life.
The Connection Between Psychic Mediumship and Trauma Healing
As a medium, my role is to bridge the gap between our physical world and the spiritual plane, serving as a conduit for communication with spirits who have passed on. Initially, given my background and training as a therapist, I thought the use of mediumship to heal trauma sounded not only unconventional or even weird, but perhaps also risky. In short, I said "forget it" and stuck to providing readings either for entertainment or comfort for grievers. But the very mechanism of how and why mediumship works is through surrendering, allowing, and trusting what comes through--and, Spirit had other plans for me and my clients.
Over and over I would feel the nudge of a spirit person that somehow felt a little like "Please tell the person I'm here and have something to say...and, heads up, initially they may not like that I'm here (cringe)...but I promise it'll be helpful for all involved". Or, what I would feel was a big sense of heaviness, as in, this is going to be difficult and emotional for the person, but also worth it in terms of being able to rewrite their story. And over and over, I'd bring it up with some trepidation, offering clients the choice of whether to connect to this spirit or not. And more often than not, after some consideration, my clients would lean in and trust, just as I was doing. And over and over the feedback I later received from recipients of my readings was that readings helped them gain a new level of understanding and therefore closure, have an a-ha moment they weren't expecting, find forgiveness when it seemed incredibly unlikely, have a cathartic release of emotions, or change a story they had told themselves for years. In other words, readings helped clients unravel complex emotions and experiences associated with childhood or family trauma, and in so doing, they gained understanding, healing, and peace for themselves...and a chance at a new story about who they are and what they deserve.
The Role of a Psychic Medium in Family and Childhood Trauma Healing
So what kinds of messages typically come through in these readings? It's very common to receive and share messages of love, regret, and acknowledgement of the circumstances. Apologies are common as well, although these often come with an acknowledgement of the spirit person that "I know this isn't enough" or "Please let them know that I know it doesn't excuse my behavior". There are also often messages for the client that it wasn't their fault or there was nothing they could have done any differently. Some readings offer deeper explanations for why a person behaved a certain way. Spirits also often like to answer questions posed by clients, especially about aspects of personal history that may have been obscured. Additionally, something I hear frequently is that the spirit person has done a lot of work on the other side, which afforded them a new perspective, a better sense of understanding, or a redemption of sorts.
Over time, I've found that psychic mediumship, when done in a trauma-informed and ethical way, is an effective tool in trauma healing (especially when used in conjunction with traditional healing modalities such as somatic trauma therapy and grief counseling). Mediumship readings can help promote a sense of self-forgiveness and assist the recipient in not only making sense of the things that happened, but in then reconsidering and changing the stories they tell themselves--which are key components to trauma work.
How to Prepare for a Psychic Mediumship Reading
Preparation is important when seeking a psychic mediumship session. I always work with the intention that Spirits only share what is helpful and healing for ALL involved, but it's important to keep in mind that the experience can bring up emotions and memories that may feel intense, so taking some time to prepare mentally and emotionally prior to a session is helpful. Setting intentions and coming to a session with a sense of openness and willingness also really help set the tone for your reading. And of course, patience is always useful, especially in terms of acknowledging that you may not find all of the answers at once. Trusting that exactly what is meant for you will come through at the right time is a great way to approach a reading!
Choosing the Right Psychic Medium
Navigating your path to healing trauma is an intensely personal journey, and the person you choose to help you with this process should be one that you feel at ease with. Just as with the search for a therapist, it's critical to research and select a psychic medium who is respected in their field, displays empathy and trustworthiness, and operates with professionalism. Testimonials and feedback from past clients can provide valuable insight into the medium's reliability and effectiveness in their practice. Bear in mind that just like with therapists, mediums have various areas of expertise, and not all might be equipped to assist in trauma healing. Therefore, it's worthwhile to seek a medium with a proven track record in addressing family and childhood trauma to help you on your healing journey.
Please feel free to reach out with questions; I'd love to hear from you!